If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you’ll know that every year on Mother’s Day I get to reprimand you for not taking pictures of yourself.
I have tried to make more of an effort to take pictures with my kiddos. You know, be IN the pictures. And in addition, take an individual picture with each one of them – because what happens when they’re in jr high and need a picture of themselves as a child with their mom, and there’s a bunch of other siblings in the picture too…so I took these on Easter (and wow, was the light just right for pictures!)
As moms, we aren’t in pictures. We’re behind the camera. If we do get into a picture or two (those “flattering” ones our kids take) we delete them cause we don’t look great. Guess what – our kids are used to us in our normal, not-looking-great mode – in fact if we’re all dolled up we might not look like ourselves to them…food for thought. What happens when they are all grown up and have no picture of themselves with their mom? Anyways….
If you need motivation, here’s a great In Front of the Lens Series starting at Kristen Duke Photography – click this button for more info on that:
For Mother’s Day, I’m reposting this post from previous years on the blog (to see all the comments from the first year, go HERE):
She emailed me last year to tell me she loved my blog and to ask if I liked my short hair-cut. This lead to a series of emails which eventually led me to remark that I really loved how often she posted pictures of herself with her children on her blog. And she replied to me, “Have you ever seen a photograph of your own mother and thought to yourself how fat she looked? Or how she wasn’t wearing make-up? Or wasn’t dressed in a glamorous outfit?” Of course my answer was no.
She then responded with saying that she made it a goal to take a picture of herself with her children at least once every month. And that to use excuses about how we look, as women, is ridiculous, since our children will never care what we looked like, but only that we had physical evidence of the bond between mother and child.
Aleida tragically and unexpectedly passed away in an auto accident in September of 2008, leaving 2 small children and a grieving husband. After she passed I thought of how those children must feel to have those precious photographs. I have made it my personal goal to follow her wise suggestion and I try to take photos of myself with my children….double chins, make-up free, bed-head and all.
I invite Mothers everywhere to take Aleida’s Challenge. To photograph yourself with your children each and every month. And to post them here so that we can see Aleida’s legacy unfolding”
She’s right – moms aren’t in the pictures. One reason is probably that we don’t think we look our best. But my kids surely don’t think of my “best” look when they think of me – I’m sure they see me in all my bad hair/no makeup glory. Here’s pics of my mom with me as a baby – so glad she found these:
Thanks for sharing! I just sent a text to my family that we’re starting a new Mother’s Day tradition (to be repeated on Father’s Day) of each of the kids individually with their moms, including us adult kids with our mom.
Cherry's Prairie Primitives says
I LOVED your post!! The story you posted made me cry!! We all take for granted our time here and don’t realize how much of an impact it is to everyone around us if we are suddenly taken away. How wonderful she started those pictures for all the precious memories they will always carry with them.
A Proverbs 31 Wife says
What a lovely idea! Your Easter pictures turned out really
This is a wonderful post, I dont have a lot of photos with my kids for various reasons I wont be in the pic. Today is my birthday and I am going to have a photo with each of my five children and put them up where the kids can see it every day (but maybe not guests)
Kristen Duke Photography says
Yay, thank you for linking up, and especially for that wonderful heartfelt post! I also really need to take more intentional of me and each child, thank you for the reminder!
What precious photos to treasure your memories with! Thanks for sharing!
Heather @ Raising Memories Blog says
Oh, I love this post. And I LOVE those recent photos of you with your kids!! I got some rough shots of me with my girls on Mother’s Day. MUST DO MORE SOON!! Thanks for reminding me of what I know, and making me feel the pressure to DO IT! 🙂 (And that’s a very good point about shots with individual kids- wasn’t even thinking like that, but now I will!) 🙂
Kassi @ Truly Lovely says
You know, I was getting my Mother’s Day post ready and I have almost none with just me and my mom… Not even one from my wedding! Sheesh! Happy Mother’s Day Mandy!